Student Mommy, exhausting, but worth it.
What’s it like being a student mommy?
Exhausting, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Having children became my reason not my excuse, to be someone they can look up to, their role model. Being a mother is one of the toughest job in the world, let alone a single mom.
After separating from the Air Force, I decided to pursue my BA in Journalism with two kids in tow. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but it would be worth it. As a starving college student, I often forgo meals just to be able to make sure my kids can eat. It’s a lot of sacrificing.
I’ve sacrificed sleep, gone without eating, and thought about giving up on my dream of landing a career in journalism. What’s kept me going is that internal drive, the fire deep within igniting my soul. That’s what keeps me whole, the whole while I wonder how much longer I can keep this going.
The reality is, my bills are paid, my kids are happy and healthy and while I may not have the money now, it will come. There’s a motto that I’ve passed onto my children from my mother and it goes like this: Do what you love, and the money will follow. This year I taught my 5yr old son that while we may not have alot for Christmas, we have a lot to give.
Some people are so poor, all they have is money. I tell my son that the most important things in life can’t be bought, and that’s family, love, health, and happiness. As a kindergartner, he sees me going to school to pursue my dreams and he’s more determined and motivated than ever to do well in school.
We do homework together, while my 2 yr old draws pretty pictures. As a student parent, we aren’t focused on ourselves, our stressors revolve around kids, and how we plan on keeping these tiny humans alive. They say it takes a village to raise a child, I’d say it just takes a good support group.
I found out about No Excuse Moms this past summer. I needed an outlet to channel the anxiety from school and being a single parent, so I joined. What I discovered was a renewed sense of self. Being surrounded by a supportive group of women who were also parents, all with a similar goals in mind was inspiring.
Once I fulfilled my physical outlet, I still needed my creative outlet, so I signed up to write for The State Hornet. It was by far the best decision I could have ever made. I’ve truly enjoyed every minute of it, as I’ve grown and learned as a journalist.
Lastly I realized that in order to reach my highest potential self, I needed to cut all things toxic from my life. I’ve learned along the way that sometimes you outgrow people, and that’s okay. If they’re not supportive and only wish to bring you down, cut them out.
Sometimes you need to break free of the masses and pave your own road. Sometimes the masses turn out to be “asses.” Above all I’ve discovered that one should never stop pursuing their dream no matter how hard it may seem.
When you feel like giving up, remember who you’re doing it for.